My hair is growing, I love it. I feel like the asian version of Jac Vanek, I know how ridiculous can I get? We both share the interest of photography, ginger kids, harry potter, british accents, asexuality (at least for the moment) and pop-punk bands. I don't know, out of all the "scene queens" she seems like the most "intelligent" or one that seems to have this sort of strive for life. Don't get me wrong, I love A-kitch but I feel like sometimes her "fame" gets to her. I mean, she's a lovely person considering I've met her but I can kinda see her arrogance. Or maybe it's just pride. I don't know. Call me a hypocrite, I'm not afraid to admit it.
There's something that's been bugging me for quite some time. JUDGMENT. I know we all do it, it's human, I get that but it comes to a point where it just gets out of hand, and seriously is it really necessary? I mean, I know I do it but let me tell you coming back from India I have completely let down my guard of judgment. The kids in school, who walk the hallways like they're all that, so be it. The kids that put down others because they're too scared to face their own insecurities, so be it. Because underneath it all, there is always a story. It's not just the so-called "in kids", not even the socially inept ones, it's all of us, you and me. We all have scars, we all have a story whether we choose to admit or not. We all have insecurities. Fears. Doubts. It's human, we're flawed. But my point is, as much we'd love to hate on that kid, criticize that girl's outfit, do anything in our power to diminish someone else's self-esteem it all comes back to us one way or another. And through it all, is it really worth it? I mean, I understand there are people who you will simply just dislike. Maybe there will never be a day you'll find a way to like that person. I get that. But this is textbook stuff, keep your comments to yourself. Words hurt. It's true. There's no denial in that. But there is always a reason why someone will criticize someone else. There is always something inside them that brings them to acting out on that. Maybe it's insecurities. Low self-esteem. Jealousy. But what people need to realize is that being judgmental is never beneficial. And I know it's one of the few things that society needs to learn.
These quotes have stayed with me for a while & I've kept them close to my heart:
"Be kind to everyone, for they are fighting a hard battle inside. "
- anonymous Post Secreter
&"Holding anger is a poison, it eats you from inside, we think that by hating someone we hurt them. But hatred is a curved blade and the harm we do to others, we also do to ourselves."
- The 5 People You Meet In Heaven
Another thing that kind of intertwines itself with judgment is when people criticize other people's music taste. Honestly, who said what "good music" is? Is it the latest hipster/indie band? Classic rock? That number one hit on the new top 40? No. It doesn't have to be. What I've learnt is that everyone will have different tastes in music, there will be people who share similar bands and artists with you but people need to stop being so bloody harsh about what's "good music" and what's not. I believe that whatever you think is good music, that's your good music. Maybe to someone else they may not fancy it but as long as you think it's good then why fight about it? I can understand if you dislike a certain band or artist but must people drag on and on about how terrible they are? I mean seriously, I listen to the freaking Jonas Brothers but I listen to screamo music as well. I know that people don't like the Jonas Brothers & people don't fancy screamo music, you deal. But when people are constantly throwing harsh comments at the bands and artists you like it really begins to annoy you. So what if you don't like my music, not everyone's going to fancy it but please hold your tongue. Okay, here's the thing it's okay to have different music tastes, it's okay to disagree but it's not okay to excessively judge other's music likings & degrade their fave bands/artists as to say what's better or that they're the worse thing(s) out there. Honestly, have some peace. And sorry if I didn't articulate myself that well because I often find myself doing that // being a hypocrite in which I am already aware of, thanks.
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